The Big Signs You Should Keep Trying With Him | Matthew Hussey

So, here we are, navigating the labyrinth of human connection, armed with the wisdom that investing in those who invest in us is the golden rule. Last week, we dissected terms like "ghosting" and "zombies haunting," revealing that they are mere symptoms of a deeper issue: our tendency to gauge worth based on personal affection rather than reciprocal investment.

The Lowdown on Investment Dynamics

Let's take a moment to revel in the paradox. On one side, there's the undeniable truth that we must invest in relationships. On the other, a lingering question echoes: Does this lead to a standoff, a transactional dance where we wait for the other to make the first move?

Enter the principle that adds a twist to this conundrum: Invest, then Test. Coined by the brilliant mind of my brother, Stephen Hussey, this phrase encapsulates a nuanced approach. It's about giving a little, then observing if the other reciprocates.

The Dance of Investment and Testing

Imagine spotting someone across a crowded coffee shop. Both parties feel the magnetic pull, but someone must take the plunge to break the ice. It's the classic scenario of making it easier for both sides. One person dares to sit a bit closer, bridging the initial gap. This move sets the stage for a potential connection.

Investing doesn't stop there; it's a dance that evolves. In the realm of texting, as my dear friend Jameson often emphasizes, it's about assessing the colors – are you in the blue, indicating frequent interaction, or stuck in a lukewarm zone? It's sending substantial messages and keenly observing the response, ensuring the investment is a two-way street.

Communicate, Don't Chase

In the grand tapestry of dating, missteps often occur when communication takes a backseat, and chasing steps into the limelight. Communicating involves expressing interest, being open, and demonstrating vulnerability – telling someone you find them attractive or suggesting a coffee date.

On the flip side, chasing is akin to pouring energy into a void without equivalent reciprocation. It signals a lack of self-worth and self-respect. After all, why chase someone relentlessly if they don't contribute to the energetic exchange?

The Art of Selective Investment

In this intricate dance, the key is to invest strategically. It's not about incessantly waiting for someone else to make the first move. Instead, it's about bravely and vulnerably revealing your stance – signaling openness, interest, and a willingness to explore a deeper connection.

Chasing, on the other hand, is a red flag. It's akin to placing someone on a pedestal, idealizing them without receiving the corresponding investment. Recognizing the balance between admiration and reciprocity is crucial. True greatness in a relationship lies not just in the qualities of a person but in their commitment to mutual growth and investment.

So, in the grand theater of human connections, let's embrace the art of Invest and Test. A symphony of mutual investment, communication, and selective pursuit creates the harmonious rhythm of authentic connections. After all, in this dance of relationships, it's the steps taken together that compose the most beautiful and lasting melodies.