When Sh*T Hits The Fan| Episode 103: Married With A Girlfriend? Exclusive

Marriage is a concept that has long been debated and questioned by society. Many wonder why individuals choose to go through the legalities and formalities of marriage when they can simply date and be with whoever they want. It's a valid question - why get married?

For some, the decision to get married may be impulsive, as was the case for me and Rico. We didn't go through the traditional route of a church ceremony. Instead, we headed to a courthouse in Batman. Initially, we regretted our impulsive decision, realizing that we should have taken more time to think it through. But despite the impulsiveness of our marriage, I still believe Rico is my person, someone I want to be with no matter what.

In a relationship, whether polyamorous or monogamous, there is usually a primary partner. In our case, I would be the primary partner, but that doesn't mean Rico treats me any better than he treats his other partner. We believe in equality and open communication. There are no secrets or hidden agendas between us. Rico talks to both of us about everything, and there is a sense of balance and fairness in our relationships.

The Negative Side of Polyamory

Now, let's talk about the negative aspects of our polyamorous relationship. One of the misconceptions people have about polyamory is that cheating cannot occur within these relationships. But the truth is, cheating can happen in any type of relationship, including polyamorous ones.

Early on in our journey, we had agreed not to engage in outside sexual experiences. We made this decision not only for emotional reasons but also for safety. However, there was a time when boundaries were crossed, and cheating occurred. While some may consider it a minor betrayal, it was still a breach of trust.

Children and Family Dynamics

Children are often a topic of discussion when it comes to relationships. In our case, I already have a child from a previous relationship, and Rico and I want to have one more child together. We have considered all possibilities, including the scenario where Rico accidentally gets his other partner pregnant. Surprisingly, I wouldn't be mad. We have had conversations about this and have decided that if it happens, we would raise the child as a happy family.

Roles and Dynamics

In our relationships, there is no strict dominance or alpha position. I wouldn't consider myself the alpha woman in the relationship. We have all agreed to navigate our relationship with respect and shared responsibilities. While I may have taken the lead in the beginning, setting boundaries and establishing a comfort level, those boundaries have evolved over time. It is a continuous process of adjusting and finding balance that works for us.

One Relationship or More?

I am currently in a relationship with both Rico and Cecily. Rico and I are open to her dating someone else if she wishes. However, I feel comfortable and content with our current situation, and I am not actively seeking another relationship.

Final Thoughts

So, why get married? Marriage can be a deeply personal and impulsive decision. It can provide a sense of commitment and stability for some, even if the path to marriage is unconventional. In our polyamorous relationships, we strive for equality, honest communication, and personal growth. While challenges may arise, we believe that love and respect can conquer all. The decision to get married or not ultimately depends on the individuals involved and what they deem important in their relationships.